Saturday, March 29, 2008

What is "Crumbs in my butter?"


And now for the long-awaited reveal of the title of my blog!

A few years ago Paul and I were preparing for out of town company. A dear friend was coming that we hadn't seen in a while and I went nuts cleaning the house. The day before our guest was to arrive, Paul came home from work to find me in a tizzy. I was stressed out because I had to go shopping and get "guest friendly" food, come up with some type of welcome basket for the guest bedroom, I was even touch-up painting our walls where my five year old (then 3 yr. old) had colored or put his handprints. 

Paul asked me why I felt the need to do all of these things? Well, I was outraged! Why do I feel the need??? Because, it's what your SUPPOSE to do when you have company. After all, he should be thankful that I am doing all this, because it makes him look good too. As I was giving him my laundry list of "to-do's" for the day, he sat down at the kitchen counter and just listened...patiently and quietly, until....

A - "And I need to pull the weeds from the front flower bed, put a new bar of soap in the shower, and oh...there's crumbs I need to scrape out of the butter."

P - "Wait, what did you say? There's crumbs in the BUTTER! Angela, seriously, you've got to be kidding me."

A - "No, that's embarrassing, I'm gonna scrape them out!"

Paul had enough. He told me he didn't care if anyone saw the crumbs in our butter in fact he said, let them see the crumbs in our butter! That's who we are! We HAVE CRUMBS IN OUR BUTTER! In fact, he said, I hope Will throws a good 'ol fashioned tantrum while our company is here too, because that's WHO WE ARE! 

So, I left the room, upset. But I thought about what he said, (or what he yelled :) I decided to leave the weeds in the flower bed, and yes, I left the crumbs in my butter.

Now, it's not that I won't occasionally scrape those crumbs out for company, and I still do all of the little touches, because that's just me. But, my perspective on why I do these things has changed. Thank goodness for a husband who isn't scared to tell me the truth. 

A good friend will see the crumbs in your butter and love you anyway, or love you even more because of them. 


25 comments:

Donna said...

Cute, Angela! That really is a nice story and a great title! That Paul...he's a keeper!!

And by the way....you do gift baskets for your guests? Seriously? Can I come stay at your house next time we pass through Atlanta?!

Denise said...

Love the title! Sometimes we all need a good talk with our hubby! I have had PLENTY!

I want to come stay at your house too. And I guarentee, by the time we leave your sweet home there will be crumbs in your butter and a few other various places too!

Welcome to the blog world!

kirsten said...

Angela!!! I love the story, I can just see you and Paul sitting on your counter tops having this discussion! I have to say, I have done that very thing, "clean out the butter tub" before somebody other than family comes to stay at our house. I mean, we have a lot of toast here :-)
Good to keep it in perspective though, on why we are "stressing" to impress people.

Dolly said...

I love that story Angela! SO CUTE and Donna's right, that Paul IS a keeper. You two are so good for each other.

I don't think I've ever stayed with you before but now that I know you provide gift baskets in your guest rooms, wow! we'll have to plan a trip soon. :)

I always love the kind of houses you can just feel comfortable in...Everything's not PERFECT and you can just feel at home. I know you're a great hostess!

Donna said...

So, Angela...tell us. What do you put in these gift baskets? Do you have your own label of shampoos, soaps and body lotions? Do you provide mending kits and shoe shine kits? What about mints on the pillow? Is that your game?

We're actually coming through the Atlanta area on the 23rd of April.

Denise said...

How about shower caps in the baskets? Jenius (my mother)ALWAYS uses a shower cap. (laughing)

Dolly said...

Angela, did you put crumbs on your butter for this picture or were they already on there?

Also, was it Mandy Thacker that was coming to visit that you were talking about in your story? I'm just going to take a guess.

Angelarichardson@mac.com said...

Donna, Ha! Soaps and shampoos with my own label! No, but the funny thing is, sometimes I do put fun soap in there. Which nobody ever uses because that kind of soap makes you ITCH. It's just for deco.

Dolly, man, you got me! Sheesh! I did take that picture a few days ago, b/c I needed a pic for my story. I sprinkled some crumbs on the top....BUSTED! How did you know?

Ya'll come on down! Just give me a days notice so I can repaint, redecorate, pressure wash the house, etc.....SIKE!

Angelarichardson@mac.com said...

I think I'll do a post about "The Perfect Gift Basket", and Donna, maybe it'll include a little Canada Dry/Green Tea....

Toni said...

Yay!! Welcome to the Blog World!!! I love catching up with everyone this way :)

jenniferg said...

I can vouch for Angela's gift baskets.. My daughters (ages 8 and 10) stayed at the Richardson B&B one weekend. Not only did they get showered with fun activities, they got GIFT BASKETS. The baskets were beautiful Vintage type Disney mugs with hot cocoa and goodies. They loved it!!!!!! Crumbs and all.....

Dolly said...

That Angela! She's the real Martha Stewart. Angela, you should blog about the home make over thing you did with your church. You put Martha Stewart to shame on that project!

Donna said...

Angela! I am very impressed! Now do your guests get to take these baskets home with them or are they only to be uses while at the Richardson home?

I know you make Paul proud:)

Amy said...

This is SO CUTE! Love the story and the title. So true too.

Jack said...

I was the guest they were referring to! I was so blown away by the house, the kids and the hospitality how could I have ever noticed crumbs in the butter?!!

You two are the best.

Jack Leahy

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Anji said...
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Anji said...

That is a great story and very true! My husband has taught me the same lessons...even though I sometimes fight him tooth-and-nail. I am still a work-in-progress!

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